Comments on: Resolutions Passé? Try this. Stop, Start, Continue…

By: Madelaine Weiss

Madelaine Weiss — Thu, 07 Jan 2021 14:14:45 +0000

Hey Ana! good for you. You’re free of the insanity of resolutions not kept year after year, not just you, 92% of us! Let us know how this other way works. And love and warm wishes to you and yours for 2021 and beyond…

By: Ana

Ana — Thu, 07 Jan 2021 14:05:38 +0000

Happy New Years Madelain! Loved this advice, I just deleted my yearly resolutions letter to my self, because like Mary, by February, I can’t even remember what I wrote! going with this approach instead, and keeping it simple, one thing a time.
May this new year be of P E A C E and health! Thank you!

By: Madelaine Weiss

Madelaine Weiss — Tue, 05 Jan 2021 19:23:45 +0000

Steven, let’s keep it simple, with this new question that I like, “What would the mind be doing if it was not doing this?” It doesn’t even require an answer, as the question alone is enough of a jolt into an awareness that having to devise such schemes as Helen’s may not be the best use of our time, and energy, and our lives. I recently started using this myself, and find it really fun and useful.

By: Steven Nisenbaum

Steven Nisenbaum — Tue, 05 Jan 2021 19:01:00 +0000

Is this the same premise as Alcoholics Anonymous and 12 Step Program “One Day At A Time” approach, but segmented differently or not so concretely? It is sort of a magic trick illusion to play on yourself for goal-setting. I knew a woman (“Helen” was her name) years ago who was a devoted Weight Watchers disciple and she sometimes did have success, but also was a roller-coaster. She told me that the secret of her intervals of success was to pair a desired food impulkse with some image she founmd revulsive — such as seeing ice cream but with imaginary ants crawling over it. I guess for some periods of time for certain goals it worked enough so that she could report some good news at the next meeting of Weight Watchers. She also was trying to manage diabetes, so that was an additional incentivixer or penalty for self-reinforcement contingencies. Maybe mindfulness cleansing your mind through daily meditations is similar? In fact, isn’t this what Seneca advised in his Letter to Lucilius #59, and what The Buddha taught and that Zen Masters tried to routinize as exercises? The basis of CBT therapies?

By: Madelaine Weiss

Madelaine Weiss — Tue, 05 Jan 2021 16:38:17 +0000

Yes, Mary, you and a lot of people making and breaking, and then making same ones all over again. So, great idea to keep it small enough to actually accomplish, to see and feel good about that. If you happen to try, Stop, Start, Continue…let us know what you find!

By: Mary Frances kornak

Mary Frances kornak — Tue, 05 Jan 2021 16:22:45 +0000

I always make resolutions and then break them
So it’s best for me to think about little things and try to get them accomplished rather than expect to get a resolution accomplished